What would you do if you discovered you married a sex addict?

Eight years into her marriage, Sophia started to wonder if her husband had lost interest in sex.
“He’d always go to bed later than me and often made excuses when I brought it up,” explains the 35-year-old.
“So, when he sat me down one day to tell me he was a sex addict, I actually laughed – although I soon stopped when he disclosed night upon night of watching pornography for hours on end and numerous short-lived affairs. My life fell apart.”
Sexual addiction could involve sex with a partner, but it may also mean activities such as viewing pornography, masturbation, exhibition/voyeurism, visiting prostitutes, using sex chat lines and indulging in other excessive sexual pursuits.
While for most people, such habits don’t cause problems, sex addicts are unable to control these urges and actions which have debilitating effects on them. Some entertainers gave their opinions on the issue as follows:
We would seek help together— Keira Hewatch, Actress/Presenter
If I discovered that my husband is excessively addicted to sex, we would have to seek some sort of psychotherapy/counselling if it became dangerous to his well-being, both physically and mentally. Everything should be in moderation, being addicted to anything isn’t good.
I’ll go through it with him — Ijeoma Grace Agu, Actress
If I discovered that I married a man who’s addicted to sex, we will both have to go through the problem together. Seek for a solution together. Regardless of whether he’s made a bad choice, I have to set boundaries to protect myself and also pray for him.
I'll give in to an open relationship if …— Imelda J, Singer
I'll have to court him in order to know his sex life before getting married to him. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. But in the situation whereby my husband is a sex addict, I will take him to a sex therapist to find out the reason behind his addiction. After trying so many options for a possible solution and the addiction persists, I will be left with no option than to give in to an open relationship. Though it's risky as I might end up losing him to another woman. But I believe he can find a lasting solution to his addiction with therapy.
I’ll file for divorce — Cynthia Agholor, Actress
I will file for divorce from my parent’s home. Because I would have left him to my parent’s house, immediately I find out. A better way to heal is to allow yourself to feel the pain, work through the grief and let it go.
I will look for ways to satisfy her—Lurrenz Onuzulike, Actor/Producer
IF a person marries a sex addict, it means the person wants it that way because naturally you date a little these days before marriage. During courtship, if it’s an honest relationship, the person should be able to know if he or she is marrying an addict or not. If I marry her before discovering her excessive sexual craving, there’s not much I can do but to find other ways to satisfy her if I can’t do so myself. There are many sex toys out there today that helps a woman avoid the temptation of cheating

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